How to influence my boyfriend to change his thought to move on as I love him too much?

We are have a long distance relationship because I'm living in Jakarta, Indonesia and he is living in Hove, UK. We met on dating site because we both looking for a longterm relationship. He is 45 y/o and I'm 30 y/o. And we're dating for 1,5 years 3 months. First time we met in Bali then in Jakarta to met my family and I went to UK to met his family and friends also. He is live sharing the flat with his mate with 3 people in the house. His mate is married and have a daugther 19 y/o. His mate is 47 y/o and his mate's wife about 27 y/o. While I was in UK last xmas until january for a month we had some arguing which is about some things because we're from different character and culture as I'm an asian and he is a western man. It was my 1st time trip went to europe with extremely weather which is I have never get used it. I was shocking for everything.. weather, foods, people, environment, etc. And I have to be nice act to his mate as he is sharing the flat as I dont want they judge me bad person. It was so depressed a lot for me because at the same time I had to fighting for the weather, foods, people, environment, etc. His behavior made me depressed too as he didn't show me his attention to me while I was there so that's why I cried and wanted to go back as I told him twice. I thought he could be tolerance and understanding person. His behavior really so hard and bossy person. Everything have to do with his own way never want to listen or share the thoughts with me. When we met in my country I did'nt know exactly his behavior as we're on a holiday so we just focus to our holiday to spent but in UK we are become being real person. After finished my trip I go back to my country like usual. I go back to Jakarta, Indonesia with all confusing, depressed, frustated, and stress I have until today. We back to our chat again as usual but days after days weeks after weeks months after months his instinct to our relationship feel not sure as he told me. That's because I act like childist. I told him that I act like that because he didnt show me his attention or any feel understanding what I feel at that time. I cried twice and didnt want to talked with him when I was mad because I was really shock for everything and I need a process to adapt with everything including his behavior too. I always respect and accept him just the way he is as I love him too much. We spending our time to chatting to talk about this over and over again but he always keep with his instinct.. This is makes me feel so depressed and stress a lot and makes my weight loss 4 kg because of this. I tried to explain everything to him that everything need a process to adapt not instanly to understand. I just dont know what else to do to make influence his thought to move on...? What should I do as I love him too much and dont want to breakup with him, pls help me....??